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When purpose meets purpose…

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I find myself writing about relationships and marriages mostly on Fridays and I wonder why. Maybe I should turn Fridays to Friday frank relationship talks just like Monday’s inspirational drive yeah? Yes.
And how are you all doing? Week was great too? Thank God.

So I saw Kanayo Dike’s picture on Instagram during the week. She captioned it #purpose meets purpose. I think the guy’s her Bobo. I am not sure though but that’s not what I want to talk about, something else struck me…

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I wonder…

It’s a beautiful evening. The kind of evening that makes you happy it’s Friday. I tap my fingers on the table expectantly, wondering why he is yet to call. He had called earlier to tell me he will pick me up after work, so we can hang out. Thank God it’s Friday!

Oh, my manners!

I am Onome, and by ‘he’, i mean Remi, my love of four years. You noticed the tribe difference right? Yeah, one of the many battles we fought to be where we are today. I love Remi, no doubt about that. I met him when I was in JSS1 and we’ve been friends ever since.

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He’s the guy who saw me through Maths and Physics. He’s the guy who wrote me love letters, the guy whose language my heart understands perfectly. Even when we were not dating, i knew i was gonna marry him someday. Someday. Yeah, a lot of factors were against us. Tribe, according to my parents, was the first on the list. Age was another factor. You see, Remi is 8 years older than I am. Age is just a number right? So I’ve heard.

Today however, all these are behind us. It definitely was not easy, but we did it. Our love kept us together. That should tell me that our love can weather any storm, yes?

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I try to call him but his number does not go through. I sigh, my disappointment written all over my face. Suddenly, i hear  Natalie Grant’s ‘when God made you’. I pick up my phone and smile to myself.

“Hey babe”

“Hi sweets, you ready? I’m outside”

“I am o, be there in a minute.”

I drop the call and shut down my system. I look around, my colleagues had all left the office. In a minute, I was in his car. In another ten minutes, we are seated in a reserved corner in our favourite restaurant. I look at my love, he does not smile back at me. I notice he is avoiding my eyes. I wonder. We settle down to eat.

“Babe, what’s wrong?” I ask

He looks up at me and smile. Ah, that smile. I cannot resist, i smile back.

“Are you okay?” I ask again.

“Do you love me at all?”

Fear grips me.

“Babe you know I do”

“So, when are we getting married? I love you so much Onome, you know it. I love you, you love me, we’ ve prayed about us, so what’s stopping us? I want to spend the rest of my life with you, i want to grow old with you, i want you to be the mother of my children, I want to be your partner, I will stand by you, come what may, I will…”

He holds his head in his hands brokenly, I see a tear drop, my heart is broken.

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I try to say something but nothing comes out of my mouth. I feel the hot tears threatening to come pouring any time soon.

“I…..I…., babe you don’t understand”

He looks up and joins his hand with mine on the table.

“Then make me understand my love, we are a team, we are in this together.”

I look at his reassuring face, his lips turn up in a sad smile, he rubs his finger on my hand gently, urging me on. I open my mouth again and this time, the words come. I allow the tears to flow freely.

“I love you babe and I want to grow old with you too but I wonder. I wonder if our marriage will turn out to be like my parent’s. The thought of it alone scares me because I want a beautiful marriage. I wonder if one day, you won’t look back with regrets. I wonder if you won’t start tolerating me after a while. I wonder if you can really keep all these promises. Life happens you know, and people change. I wonder if I can be the kind of wife you need. I wonder if you can be the head of our home, physically and spiritually. I wonder if I can trust you with my future and that of my children.

I wonder if you can lead and guide me, I wonder if you can put me back on track when I seem to be wandering. I wonder if you will allow me be all God wants me to be, or you’d rather i be who you want me to be. I wonder if you won’t be intimidated by my success. I wonder if someday you won’t get tired of telling me the ‘i love you’s’ that i like to hear. I wonder if you’ll still laugh at my silly jokes after a year. I wonder if you will hold my hand as we walk down the street after three children. I wonder if you will still find me beautiful with sagging breasts. I wonder if you can be my best friend after you’ve known all there is to know about me. I know our love as stood the test of time but i wonder. I just wonder.”

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Here’s to all Christian ladies who have allowed fear of the unknown stop them from taking the leap from Miss to Mrs: PERFECT LOVE casts out fear. These guys are humans too, just like us. Stop seeking from a man what only God can give. Like a wise man said, the next time fear comes knocking, send faith to get the door. The list is endless and I could go on and on but no human being can answer these questions as a matter of fact. If God has shown you the green light, you gotta trust him to do His thing.

Happy Sunday people and happy new month! May the month of May bring good tidings your way!!

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Blessings all the way!!!

Happily Ever After…

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

A good marriage must be created.

In the art of marriage, the little things are the big things…

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;

The courtship shouldn’t end with the honeymoon,

It should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives;

It is standing together, facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for things of the Spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, the dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner…

Culled.