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Hello People,

Ah, how have you been? Been a while here o, fault is all mine I know. Thank you for not giving up on me. This is for you, I saw it and couldn’t resist. Beautiful isn’t it?

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Yes, it’s another beautiful day in the awesome August. By the way, How has the month been? Trust me, there is always a reason to give thanks, if we care to look hard enough.

Let’s get down to it. I should warn you though, it promises to be a long ride. So grab a seat and some munchies wouldn’t be a bad idea too.

Read. Sing. Meditate. Enjoy.

 

Our Help In Ages Past

 

O God, our help in ages past,

Our hope for years to come,

Our shelter from the stormy blast,

And our eternal home.

 

Under the shadow of thy throne

Thy saints have dwelt secure;

Sufficient is thine arm alone,

And our defence is sure.

 

Before the hills in order stood,

Or earth received her frame,

From everlasting thou art God,

To endless years the same.

 

A thousand ages in thy sight,

Are like an evening gone;

Short as the watch that ends the night

Before the rising sun.

 

Time, like an ever-rolling stream,

Bears all its sons away;

They fly forgotten, as a dream

Dies at the opening day.

 

O God, our help in ages past,

Our hope for years to come,

Be thou our guard while life shall last,

And our eternal home.

 

“For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that we through the patience and comfort of the scriptures, we might have hope.”- Romans 15:4

 

This topic has been on my mind for months now, I’ve just been too lazy to do something about it. Lately, I’ve been going through a lot of stuffs that to be sane through it all, I knew I had to look back at things God had done before, just to be sure he still got my back. I mean, it’s just a very thin line between faith and doubt. There are so many unanswered questions, so many what if’s, so many reasons to allow ourselves drown in unbelief. You know how you’ll be spitting scriptures one minute and the next you are thinking of a plan B, just in case. There are even times that plan B refuses to show up and we just worry rather than trust in the One who delights in wowing us.

The beautiful thing is even if you look back at your own life and think you’ve come this far all by yourself, I’m sure there’s yet a life that can convince you that there is a power, a force greater than life itself, greater than us. This ‘force’ is God. He is more than a power, He is more than a force, He is the only true and wise God, He is immortal, and invisible. I could go on and on but….I digress.

 

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So I’ve been dragging this particular issue for months now with my dad and really, I threw in the towel at a point. I mean why is it difficult for him to see things from my point of view too? My dad can be very difficult like that and yes, I can be very stubborn too, so you could call it, ‘clash of titans’. My mum (that woman ehn…) sat back and in my opinion, did nothing (Wasn’t she supposed to scream down her husband’s throat if it’ll make him see reason?) but advise me to pray. She would call me and start with the song, ‘I know my Redeemer lives’. I was always so angry. Whatever happened to ‘the violent taketh it by force?’ This dragged on for months and still I didn’t budge, neither did my dad. In the midst of all these, I couldn’t find a way to put it all into words and send a word of prayer up without feeling a tad guilty. I sulked, cried, gave him a piece of my mind etc

 

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“..In quietness and confidence shall be your strength..”-Isaiah 30:15

 

I’m learning.

August came and I was still bitter. I began to give God FYI prayer points. I was bitter and nothing happened. Why was it so difficult to then look up to the one with the answers? I really do not know. Then one day, something happened. I don’t know what it is but I started praying. First Sunday in church, I was crying while writing my prayer points but I wrote anyway and prayed. I started talking to God about the situation, I didn’t even pray the ‘let down the roof’ kind of prayers. It was just conversations. I knew what God wanted me to do and I did it and looked on. Somehow, I looked down memory lane and knew I was in for yet another surprise. Let me share some of them with you.

I remember being in the hospital for the first six months of my life, as skinny as they come (as told by mum), I remember having this leg injury that could have cost me a foot in Primary five, I think, I was in school for just four days in the whole term and still came 4th in the class. I remember my secondary school days, how God saw myself and my siblings through as Dear ma had to borrow money here and there to pay the fees. I remember making all my papers at once with enviable grades and then came admission into University which was drama all the way. I remember writing post Jamb, only to be told I scored zero because I didn’t fill a form so well. Did I cry that night or what? My aunty wouldn’t let me be though, she dragged me to Church that same night. You know God has a way of teaching us lessons in life but in the end, He comes through for us. I was not used to failure and that was a huge blow but the year after, I got admitted without itches. Don’t even get me started on my Uni days. I remember a particular day in my final year though, I had a minor issue with a Professor and she promised me I was not graduating that year. She told whoever cared to listen. I cried, pleaded and when nothing happened, I went home. I prayed for a while and when there was no strength left for prayer, I switched to Byron Cage’s ‘He is able to turn the table in my favour, He remains faithful to believe’. I sang it all through the night and even while preparing for school the next day. This same Professor came to meet me and told me I could go ahead with my project defence. Ah, tis a day I cannot forget. I could go on and on and on and I really want to but the conclusion remains the same, He is a faithful God!

 

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Like I mentioned earlier, even if you find it difficult to look in retrospect, take a look at the next person to you. It might be difficult to believe but trust me sugar, you aren’t going through something someone hasn’t gone through before.

“No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; He’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; He’ll always be there to help you come through it.”-1 Corinthians 10:13 The Message

 

Now, I know we may think ‘pushed past your limit’ as used above is relative. But if God does not know what you can take, then who does? If he cannot understand, who can? He formed you after all, He moulded you and gave you life, He knows you even better than you know yourself. He can do whatever He wishes, to and with you.

 

“…but the jar that he was forming didn’t turn out as he wished, so he kneaded it into a lump and started again. Then the Lord said: O Israel (Insert your name here) can’t I do to you as this potter has done to his clay? As the clay is in the  potter’s hand, so are you in my hand.”-Jeremiah 18:4-6 The Living Bible

 

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You know how they say, ‘You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have?’ Well, that’s to tell you you’ve not reached your limit yet, He will always make a way, He will always come through. The above verse in KJV says, ‘…He will also make a way of escape’. You know sometimes when things happen to us and we are talking about it later, we’ll say, ‘It happened, just like that.’ Well, I think that’s God’s way of saying, ‘you’ve reached your limit, this is my way of escape’.

“I knew you before you were formed within your mother’s womb, before you were born I sanctified you and appointed you as my spokesman to the world”-Jeremiah 1:8 The Living Bible

Here’s the beautiful part, whatever you are going through is for a larger purpose- A spokesman to the world!

 

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Haven’t we heard of couples that had a child after 20 or more years of marriage? I know one or two personally. Haven’t we read of students who stood for God, didn’t write a particular paper and came out with an A in the course? Haven’t we heard of women who got married after 50 years of age and still had issues post menopause? Don’t we all know a child born by a mother who was told would never have a child? Didn’t we read about Bartimaeus? Have we forgotten the woman with the issue of blood? You still remember the 5000 men that were fed? Enoch? Abraham? Abraham! What kind of man would serve a God who promised something only to fulfil it 25 years after?? 25 long years if you ask me. Abraham did. Little wonder God blessed him so much so that generations after, we all still want to be associated with Father Abraham. To think he was willing to sacrifice that same child just because God said so is something I find difficult to comprehend. Hannah? Joseph? Moses? The list is endless.

 

 

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“Do you see what this means-all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running-and never qui! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how He did it. Because He never lost sight of where He was headed-that exhilarating finish in and with God-he could put up with anything along the way: cross, shame, whatever. And now He’s there, in the place of honour, right alongside God. When you find yourselves flagging in your faith, go over that story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into your souls!”- Hebrews 12:1-3 The Message

 

These things do not happen so we can gather with the people and rejoice with them alone. No! These things happen so the day you find yourself in a similar situation, you’ll be reminded of the God that did it then and be encouraged that He can do yours as well. These people are our great cloud of witnesses. They are there to cheer us on. If God has done it before, He can definitely do it again.

 

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“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever.”-Hebrews 13:8

 

 

Whenever you are tempted to consider the size of the problem and see if God can actually do it, throw in a word of faith. Do not focus on how big your problem is, rather focus on how big your God is. Remember Peter? Yep, the same Peter in Matthew 14. Dude was so sure of himself, after all, he was a disciple, a follower. He knew Jesus so well. He told Jesus to command him to walk on water and the master did. I can imagine him taking a step at a time with his gaze fixed on Jesus. As he took the first step and realised that contrary to popular opinion, it was possible to walk on water, he took the second step with his gaze still on Jesus. Then the wind came and the guy doubted Jesus’ ability. Who wouldn’t? We are talking about a storm when the guy was on water! He looked at something else other than Jesus and that minute fear crept in. That same minute, he began to sink.

 

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Truth is in life, things will always happen that will threaten our faith, things will happen that will cause of to entertain fear and doubt. The good part is when we find ourselves sinking, we can always cry out just like Peter did, ‘Lord, save me!’

“..And Peter answered Him and said, ‘Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on water. So He said, ‘Come.’ And when Peter had come down out of the boat, he walked on the water to go to Jesus. But when he saw that the wind was boisterous (stormy, violent, strong, noisy), he was afraid; and beginning to sink he cried out, saying, ‘Lord, save me!’ and immediately Jesus stretched out His hand and caught him, and said to him, ‘O you of little faith, why did you doubt?’ And when they got into the boat., the wind ceased.”-Matthew 14:28-32

 

Jesus did not promise us a smooth ride without storms but we know with Him in the boat, we cannot sink. If you are walking toward Him to the best of your ability, He will see you through life’s unpredictable waters-but you must risk launching the boat. Just ask Peter! He will never leave us stranded, He is God, He cannot lie!

 

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In Hebrews 11, we are told that faith in God is being sure of what we hope for. That is the reality of the Christian life. We know whom we have believed in, even though we have never seen Him. Our hope is in Christ and because of that, it is a sure thing, a done deal.

Hope on its own has no power. I can hope to wake up one morning and be an American with all the attributes, but that hope would not serve me well. Hope depends on what it is linked to. Our hope in Christ is surer than anything we can see and experience on this earth and we arrive at that place through faith. Faith is a living thing, it is our lifestyle. It is a commitment to walk in the footsteps of Christ, not knowing what lies ahead, but knowing that He is with us, therefore we can take the next step. Our walk with Christ sometimes takes us through dark places where it seems as if the sun will never shine again, and we may feel abandoned. Faith calls us to live above what we feel to what we know to be true. Christ staked His life on the cross so we can walk as those before us and blaze a trail for those to come.

 

Oh, did I mention that my dad has calmed down? and when I thought it will be difficult to take a day off work to attend to some stuufs, our MD himself put a stop to the meeting that usually holds that day, I took the day off, did all I needed to do and guess what? The week after, we started the meeting again. So I can say God used the MD for me without me asking. It would have been really difficult getting the approval to be away but God just had to show me that he’s always before me, making ways even before I get there. Now, isn’t this God just sweet?

“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?”-Jeremiah 32:27 KJV

 

O God, our help in ages past,

Our hope for years to come,

Our shelter from the stormy blast,

And our eternal home!

 

Have a wonderful week people.

May the remaining days of August be awesome for you!

Lots of ♥♥♥

 

PS: I’m planning to start a new category, should be a weekly post titled: Tales of a soon-to-be-married Christian lady. Yeah, you guessed right. So, if you are like me and you feel the need to share some stuffs,  please inbox me at okunolabukky@yahoo.com.

 

 

 

Blessings all the way!

 

 

 

 

Girlfriends…

“I don’t have girl friends, I prefer to hang out with guys.”

“I Can’t imagine having a woman as a boss. I can’t even work with ladies, lai lai, tufiakwa!”

“Guys are super cool. Girls? too complicated.”

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How many times have we heard things like these? Worse still, how many times have we said things like these? As ladies o. I mean coming from a guy, it will be so easy to tag him ‘chauvinist’ but even girls? When I hear things like these, i laugh. If you can’t have a woman as your superior, you probably want to be a subordinate all your life.

I agree the female gender might be a bit, just a lil bit complicated but really, we were born with sin, must we stay in sin?

If you as a lady cannot have girlfriends, what should happen to the little girl who doesn’t have a voice of her own? Or the lady who admires you from afar? You are someone’s ‘mentor’, someone sees you and believes that things can get better, though you may never know. There’s a girl somewhere, who really wants the gift of your friendship but since you can’t handle ‘drama’, you may never know what could have been.

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Me, I am not one of those who can’t stand ladies (biko i no be lady?), i have girlfriends, and i love, love them with their drama, noise and all. For me ehn, the drama is even the fun part. Don’t get me wrong, I have guys as friends as well, amazing guys I must say, but some things are meant just for my girlfriends. I am not one of those who believe in gender equality. We are not equals. A man can do what he can do and a woman can do what she can do, “What a man can do, a woman can do better” is so not my ‘thing’. I just don’t get why ladies will sit down all day and complain about fellow ladies or why a lady boss will delight in making a subordinate’s life difficult. And is that so common or what?

All to show we are not mates in every sense of the word? Or what’s that slogan again? Give ’em some attitude?

Guess what darling, if you must give her some ‘attitude’ to prove a point, you are not so different from her after all.

Really, must we always prove a point? must people complain when a woman is ‘up there’?

You know if these things happen amidst unbelievers, it might be easy to overlook  but even in the midst of Christians? People who are supposed to love others no matter what? People who should shine in this dark world? Where then is our faith?

If I still find it difficult to say hi to the girl next door just because she has never greeted first, I think my faith should be questioned.

If I must give the lady at work a piece of my mind whenever she ‘runs’ her mouth, I just can’t take nonsense, I say to myself. Well, my Christianity might just be a title.

If I can’t stop carrying tales about a particular ‘bad’ girl in church or wherever, I should check my life to see if I am actually perfect.

If I still tell myself, ‘I don’t have anything against her really, but I can never speak to her again, ever!’, I probably need to define my own version of Christianity.

Sometime ago, I called together some ladies in Church and I suggested we pick prayer partners and start praying for each other about deep stuffs. A particular lady told me she couldn’t be involved because some ladies were included. She told me the last time she tried sharing some deep stuffs about herself with them, third, fourth and fifth parties had one or two things to say about her life and of course, they told her the source of their information.

Really? That bad huh?

I know some ladies though, perfect examples I must say. Ladies who have been redeemed, women who can look back and say indeed, old things have passed away. Ladies who quarrel today and make up today, bosses who gist with subordinates as though they were on the same level, that is not to say the job should suffer, it’s all about striking a balance.

Say hi, give genuine compliments, be friendly, apologise, be grateful, it doesn’t hurt anyone really.

It’s very easy to judge others, to dwell on their negative side and complain all day. But really, is there a perfect one?

In Jesus’ words, ‘Let (s)he who is without sin be the first to cast a stone.’

It’s that simple really. No one is perfect, we all need grace.

Christianity is not a destination after all, it is a journey.

One of the things I want to do with my life is to make life easier for the sister next to me, to encourage sisters like me, to hold a feeble hand up. A gentle word, a kind act can make a world of difference.

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It’s this simple, a little girl without help or support can be destroyed easily, a lot of things can go wrong with her life and when she comes across a grown woman who is successful, she feels something stir within her, it’s called hope. Don’t act like it does not concern you, because it does.

It might not be so easy, it might take just a little effort, but it’s not impossible. Some of us are temperamental, we just can’t stand people who are not as smart or as intelligent as we are. Well, here’s the good part: With the help of the Holy Spirit, we can do all things. Patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit remember? The fight against flesh is a constant battle, we must never give up!

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I have a boss who is a lady. You cannot imagine the things I heard about her at first. I did not care, I told the tale bearers I could work with anyone. I’ve discovered she is a nice person, the work gets to her sometimes though, but she ain’t bad. Instead of joining the gossip mongers, I prefer to tell them how wonderful she is. They look at me as if I’m crazy or something, I don’t really care, that’s my opinion. It is so easy to complain about others, but the easy path is not always the right path.

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When we hang out with our friends, we shouldn’t just discuss the latest fashion or gossip like our whole life depended on it, we should share deep stuffs as well. Our friends should see us as people who can be trusted with secrets. People should come to us when they are down knowing the joy of Christ in us is infectious.

Next time you are tempted to be envious of someone, you can just try to be close to the person. Sometimes, we see what we want to see in people and not who they really are. When you are tempted to complain about the ‘bad’ side of others, try saying what you wish to see in them instead or talk about the good part of the individual. It’s not being delusional, it’s called ‘calling things that be not as though they were.’

Yeah I know women are wired differently bla bla, I know it is not possible to change everyone at once but we can start with ourselves, one lady at a time and hopefully, we can change our world.

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The Holy Spirit in the life of a believer makes all the difference. Make friends, (Guys, girls), help people, let your light shine that people may see you and know that women can be ‘up’ there and make things happen without shoving it down people’s throats.

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The world is dark enough as it is. Dare to be different, dare to shine.

Yes we can. Yes we will!!

I hope you got something from my ramblings? Don’t just run off, drop your comments below. Share your thoughts with others, let’s know how we can help one other.

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Enjoy the rest of your weekend Sweethearts, enjoy life, build strong relationships and remember to be a blessing to a sister.

Plenty Love.

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Performance Review.

Hi Dearies,

So it’s the 16th day of February already. Before we spell out Jack Robinson, it’ll be October and then November and then December and then what??

Remember December 2013? It passed by not too long ago and we were so happy. If not for anything, it ushered in a new year. January came along and you just wrote out this long list of things to do in 2014. You probably did not even write anything out, you have it all in your head. Well if I may ask, how far have you gone? Remember your goals? how you told yourself (for a student) how your result this semester will be nothing short of excellent? how you promised yourself you are gonna finish your bible this year? You probably told yourself you are starting a new business this year or getting a new job or getting married or starting a particular course or doing this or that bla bla? Well, if I may ask again, how far have you gone? Where are you presently? what have you done? Have you even taken steps at all? If wishes were horses they say, everybody will ride on them but thank God they are not, means we have to get up and do something!

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By His grace, I work in a Bank. I work in a department where there is always action, you can’t be nonchalant, it is at your own risk. Trust me, you don’t really know how it works in this department until you’ve been there. There is money to be made, targets to be met, pressure everywhere, there is always something to do. The thing however is that you are given your budget at the beginning of a new year, you can decide to divide it by twelve and choose to do 1/12 of the total budget every month or you can even decide to do every thing in January and keep the money till December (if you have supernatural powers sha). In theory that’s really fine but in reality, who will leave money in the Bank for a year without touching it at all? The fact that people will keep withdrawing means you have to keep pushing for more deposits. The deposit is just an aspect but that’s what I’m talking about today.

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There are meetings we hold on a bi-monthly basis (You don’t wanna hear the full gist). The first one is called ‘mid month MPR-Monthly Performance Review’ and the other one is just MPR. The first one comes up in  the middle of the month. Here you tell the whole house how you’ve fared in Naira and Kobo, what you did to get those results (if you are doing well) and what you will do to get the required result before the end of the month (If you are not doing well) and you don’t just talk prose like one of my ogas will say, you talk Naira and Kobo. The second is MPR-Monthly Performance Review. Here you tell the whole house how you fared, what you did or didn’t do and what the plans for the coming month are. God help you if you did not do well, you sooo will not smile out of the meeting room.

Most times, when the pressure gets to me, I just sit down and think, the kind of commitment I have to this job ehn, if I can apply just half of it to other areas of my life, results for plenty o.

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The point I’m trying to make is this, once they dish out everyone’s budget in the beginning of the year, why will they not just leave us to do our thing and bring results in December? The answer is not far-fetched or is it? Nothing will ever be done that way. I’m sure any one will ever meet their target, and story go plenty like anything. And we wonder how Banks make money! It’s not rice and beans my dear, it takes discipline.

Same for you sweetie, if you want results this year, you had better get started on your own personal Monthly Performance Review. Think about it really, I mean, you don’t have anything to lose. Bring out your goals and if you don’t have them written yet, what are you still waiting for? Pick up your pen right away and write something! I remember me some years ago, I used to be really lazy when it comes to stuffs like these. I mean I was in school, my goal was to pass and pass well, so why write it down abeg? If you are like me, I must tell you, you are not helping yourself at all.

“Write the vision, and make it plain on tablets (Yeah, that’s right! or phones or laptops or journals, just write!) that he may run with it who reads it…”-Habbakuk 2:2

You see, what do you run with if you have nothing written? What happens when you get 40% and you think you’ve ‘arrived’? Biko write something! It doesn’t hurt anyone and since it’s your life, 30 minutes or even 3 hours of your time is nothing at all. Dream ‘big’, act ‘big’, pray ‘big’ and ‘big’ things will come to you.

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Strategize! Plan! If you want to have done this ‘thing’ come December, what do you need to do now? What steps do you need to take? One step at a time really makes a world of difference. You want to start your own business, start saving right away, read, study, enrol for courses, don’t just sit down and waste away. You want to study the bible in a year, start right away, join bible study groups, I STRONGLY recommend LA family on twitter (LA=Learning & Applying).

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We went through the bible in less than a year. Even on days that I could not read, I had people checking up on me, sharing what they’ve read etc. If I did it, you also can do it! There are also other bible study groups you can join, just make sure you are not where you were yesterday.

 

I have things I want to do, areas I need to work on, God knows. I need to work on my  people skills, am a people’s person really, but I can get better. I need to work on my relationships, I know I don’t invest as I should. I want to inspire people, I want to do a whole lot of things, but ‘wanting’ to do and ‘doing’ are two different things. Am I there already? mba o, have I done all that should be done? not so o, but I’m embarking on this journey and I’m inviting you to be a part of what I’ll call PMPR- Personal Monthly Performance review or PWPR=Personal Weekly Performance Review or even PDPR-Personal Daily Performance Review.

I love you really and I want to see you at your best come December. On a monthly basis, i’ll try to write something to remind you of your commitment to yourself.

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“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”- Eleanor Roosevelt.

Get started already!

Blessings,

Bukky.

DEAR LORD…

Dear blog FAM,

It’s really been a long while. For some reasons, I couldn’t write for a while; a long while actually. Thank God I’m back now, back and better by His grace. Special shout out to those who kept on checking my blog. I find it humbling to know that people kept on checking, even when there was no notification for a new post. You guys know yourselves and because of YOU, I know I can’t just toss writing aside (not like I could anyway even if I wanted to. I’m always writing something), because of YOU, I know the Lord is doing something. God bless you for me. Oh and by the way, I’m really sorry for running off like that. It won’t happen again, I promise.

This post was inspired by something that happened to me recently. I do pray and hope it’ll speak to your heart.

So I was in this situation where I had to either trust God to work things out for me, or make some phone calls and work things out myself. The decision in question was a tough one, as it would affect my life for the next five or ten years. I weighed the options, and I just decided to trust God. Oh, and did I mention that I prayed? Because I really did! What about the word of God? I held on to it like my whole life depended on it! I told all my friends and whoever cared to listen that I wasn’t interested in ‘lobbying’, God will work out something beautiful for me. I was advised to talk to people about what I want, make some calls and then back it up with God, but I was bent on trusting God all the way. After all He is God and He knows my heart and didn’t the bible say we should ask and we would receive? Didn’t the bible say we should decree a thing and it shall be established?  I did search the scriptures, and I just held on to the promises. I know He said in Jeremiah, that if I call on Him, He will answer me, and show me great and mighty things!  And even though this particular thing seemed difficult, I got this assurance from Jeremiah 32:27, ‘I am the Lord God of all flesh, is there anything too hard for me?’ Of course, I know nothing is too hard for God and after going through Matthew 18:18 again, I was rest assured that things would work according to my plans.

I was very confident as I awaited the outcome; I felt I had all the answers already. My friends could not understand me; they felt I had someone somewhere. Little did I know God had something else in mind, something totally different from my own plans.  When I got the result, to say I was disappointed is to say the least. I was disappointed in myself, I was disappointed in God. To make matters worse, those that made the ‘calls’, got what they wanted. Truth be told, I could not understand why God would give me something I didn’t want, something nobody wanted, I thought the Psalmist said those that trust in the Lord will not lack anything good? I was down, my faith was in shambles, I didn’t understand why I wouldn’t get something ‘good’, after telling people how strongly I believed. I mean, God was supposed to honour His word in my life right? I know I was supposed to just trust God, but like a wise woman once said, it’s easy to speak “Christianese” when you are not in the situation, but when you are right in the situation, it is a different ball game.Image

After some days of sober reflection, I knew I had no choice; I just had to trust God for the best in the situation. Thanks to some wonderful people in my life, I’m learning to trust God totally; I’m learning to accept Him, not just as my saviour, but as the Lord of my life. Now, you may be interested in knowing who a Lord is. According to the dictionary, a Lord can be defined as, ‘a person having formal authority over others, a master, a ruler, an owner’. When a person that has authority over you tells you to do something, you do it. The owner of a thing can do as he pleases with his property. Taking God as the Lord of your life means saying to Him, ‘wherever you lead me, I will go, whatsoever you want me to do, I will do!’Image

Remember the wedding in Cana of Galilee? Mary simply told the servants, ‘whatsoever He asks you to do, do!’ Don’t ask questions, don’t try to think for Him or worry about what He will do, just do whatever He says, and then sit back, relax and enjoy the ride because with Christ in it, it promises to be interesting. Herein lies the secret of a successful life – hearing from God, and doing His will. It’s however funny how we claim to love God and want His will to be done in our lives, but by that all we are saying is, ‘God, this is my own will, please just do it for me.’ His ways are not our ways! Being a Christian means trusting God all the way! Half or delayed obedience is still disobedience! His thoughts towards us are of good…to give us an expected end! The things we worry about will not change, but the things we commit in God’s hands will!

Where you are now might not be where you want to be, but if God has allowed it, then there is something to learn there. He says, ‘ when you go through deep waters and great trouble, He’ll be with you, when you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown, when you go through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up-the flames will not consume you!’ (Isaiah 43:2)Image

He says, ‘He will bring you along a path you have not seen before, He will make the darkness bright before you and smooth and straighten out the road ahead, He will not forsake you!’ (Isaiah 42:16)

He says, ‘He will keep in perfect peace, all those who trust in Him!’(Isaiah 26:3)

‘I will make a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland…’ Even if the situation seems like a wilderness, well, He says He will make a way!

Surrender to Him, and He’ll make the seemingly bad things work out for your good. ‘I have been young and now I’m old, yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken…’

When we pray, we should believe that God will give us what’s best, and when it comes and we don’t think it’s the best, we can help ourselves by believing that if He has brought us this far, He will definitely take us farther, as long as the situation is in His hands, it cannot fail. As important as it is to pray, it is more important to trust the Holy one, who gives answers to prayers.Image

I don’t have all the answers right now, I still have some questions, but I have chosen to trust God and take it one day at a time. Even though I can’t see the big picture right now, I know the pieces will fit together and someday I will look back with gratitude. I have chosen to speak life into the situation and be joyful, no matter what comes. I’m not denying the fact that there will be dark moments; I’ve just chosen to dwell on the fact that after the dark night comes the beautiful morning. I’m not claiming I’m in the best position right now, but I’m sure I’m where God wants me to be, which is really the best place to be in life.  I just want to be at the center of His will. Image

Though it’s not easy, I have made this choice, that He will not only be my Saviour, He will also be my Lord.  You should do the same.

MERRY CHRISTMAS IN ADVANCE…

Will you marry me?

Will you marry me???

Four very simple yet important words in the life of every single girl. Flash back to when you were a little girl, you would carry your dolls around and pamper them as though they were real babies, then act like mummy and daddy with the next door neighbour’s son. One cannot help but wonder, what business does a little girl have with marriage? It’s this simple, she sees daddy and mummy and thinks that’s what happens to all grown ups so it’s just natural to think along that line. Whether a girl is 18 or 28, marriage is something we all hope for, especially the ‘happily ever after kind’. Now, the big question is this, should it be kept at the ‘hope level’ or are there steps to be taken? For those of us who don’t understand yet, let me elaborate, should we sit by and wait for prince charming to come on a white horse, go on a knee, and bring out a little cute box from his pocket then reveal the diamond studded ring? You get it now? The guy is on his bended knee, hoping with everything in him, that it’ll be a yes, the girl is clearly surprised, with tears in her eyes, she screams yes! Now, who doesn’t want something like this?

I saw a friend’s display picture sometime ago, it was a screen grab. I guess she had asked a friend of her’s, a guy, how he would propose to his girl and here’s his response.
‘I will take her to a place we’ve not been to before, pre arrange for them to give us poor service, get very upset and ask her to pay the bill, with the receipt comes the ring, then go down and ask if she’ll have me?’
How about proposals on birthdays and val’s day? Who is that lady that will not be swept off her feet with good romance?

The truth however is this, as long as everything ends well, everyone is happy, as the saying goes, all is well that ends well. But what happens when everything does not happen as hoped? Who will start the building of a house without first counting the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it? If you ask me, I really don’t understand why a lady will go into a relationship without a vision or a good enough reason only to be hoping that one day, it’ll lead to marriage. If we have to consider age here, if everything crumbles, won’t the age remain the same? Will the circumstance reduce it? Where there is no vision, the people perish. Note, the scripture says people, not just one person. So if you are in a relationship without a vision, if anything happens, just know that the guy won’t perish alone. I think we really need to save ourselves from some unnecessary heartaches!

Have you heard of relationships that broke up after 9 or more years? I mean relationship, not marriage! The worse thing is the lady is always at the receiving end, it’s always easier for a guy to move on with his life. You hear ladies say things like, ‘I just pray he pops the question very soon, else….’ For how long shall we continue like this? What if he doesn’t pop the question? What happens then? That’s when you hear ladies say things like, ‘all guys are the same’ but is that really true? I’ve met ladies that know what exactly they want out of life, such ladies will not allow any man to waste their time. They speak up from the onset that they are not ready to start a relationship just for the fun of it. They know if it won’t go anywhere, it’s not worth starting at all!

The importance of communicating with God cannot be over emphasised here. The heart of man is desperately wicked, who can know it? Truth is a man can say one thing today and do another thing tomorrow, but if you have the back up of God, then you have all you need.
Some of us Christians hide under the cover of ‘spirituality’ and fail to do what should be done or how do you explain a ‘spirit filled brother’ hopping from one lady to the other, saying he discovered the previous lady wasn’t the one for him? My issue here is not with guys, it is with the ladies, why should you do something because God has supposedly spoken to someone about it? If God has spoken to him, He can speak to you too, if you have a listening ear. The spirit of man, is the candle of the Lord, He can lead and direct anybody through their spirit. You don’t have to learn the hard way, as my little sis would say, ‘don’t be a learner!’

Some of us hold unto chords that should be severed, we tell ourselves it’s impossible to live without a particular person because of what we’ve done or being through together. Forcing yourself on a man is never the way out, and a desperate woman is bound to make mistakes. If you don’t agree with me, just take a good look around, I’m sure there’s a couple that will convince you.

For those that are yet to go into a relationship, please be sure you are doing the right thing from day one, that way you don’t have to hope that all will end well, you are certain that it
will. Trust me, it’s easier to talk about what you want from the beginning, than after a few month or years. That way, the guy at least knows what he is bargaining for. Also to those who have gotten a king already but are still re shuffling the cards, be careful, you might just end up with a joker!

I know the issue with most of us is not that we don’t know what to do, we just want to be sure about everything, even things that are yet to happen. Think about it, if you have all the answers you seek, what will you need God for? Being a Christian simply means trusting God! It’s not just a title, it means having total and unwavering faith in God! It means believing He will do it simply because He has said it! The green light is what you need, to go, then instructions to guide you on the way.

Stop hoping and start talking, you’ve got just this life to live!

A woman’s heart.

I read this piece and it made me laugh, I hope you’ll enjoy reading it too. Though it’s rather long, its worth reading to the very end. Ladies, read on and be sure to share with the guys you know.

CHRISTIAN BROTHERS, THE ART OF LOVING AND US.
By Adebola Adeoye.

In some of my deepest and most real conversations with a number of ‘christian’ brothers, I am brought face to face with the grievance they have against ladies, particularly ‘christians’. They think I could have an answer because I host ladies like myself to meetings, and outings where we share on issues ranging from weight to God, sex, emotions, make up, the future and the men of our dreams, not necessarily in that order.

Anyway, the grievance is ‘why do the good girls fall in love with the ‘bad’ guys?’ I am sure you’ve heard the lingo before now, they say after being good, caring, true, faithful and responsible, you still find many sweet hearts falling in love with those ‘hooligans’ but hey, who said a woman is your reward for choosing a religious ideology?
Just why would a lady go ecstatic about the ‘not too bad guy’, when ex-campus fellowship presidents and many ‘spirit’ brothers await her love? The answer is close by; really, it’s not hard to see or is it? Why won’t a woman fall in love with a man who knows the rhythm of her heart and paints the rainbow on her soul? Someone who doesn’t treat her like a piece of conviction or an apparatus to gauge his self-control!

Sometime ago, a friend of mine shared her gruesome experience in the hands of her HOD in church. The brother had apparently ‘received’ her as his wife, so he summoned her to a two-man crusade to reveal the will of God. After fireworks prayer and a lot of scripture quoting, he outlined his convictions to her and went ahead to warn against the consequences of disobedience, sighting the inappropriate example of Jonah in the belly of the fish. I thought the art of asking out had gotten spicier? If you have a strong spiritual anchor as the foundation of your choice, please keep it as a guarded secret!!! Just say what you want and why you do! Tell me why you will choose me a hundred times over and over above all the ladies in the world!

On the other hand, the ‘not-too-good guy’ takes his lady to the cinema, expends some resources and gives her a cheering treat. It’s not so much about the movie, salted popcorn or bowl of strawberry ice cream, but the atmosphere he builds around her. With every word, touch on the shoulder, bat of the eyelid and boyish grin he passes to her, he whispers admiration; he simply makes a queen out of a woman. Now, don’t tell me these are not the things that count and whether or not the promises will be kept is an entirely different matter.

How many times have we grumbled to one another during our girl times, on why we keep receiving ‘Spiritual books’ as gifts at every weary opportunity to convince us of their love? In fact, depending on the memory of the brother involved, you can receive more than a copy of the same book! The most famous are, ‘The Power and Purpose of a woman’ by Myles Munroe, ‘The Power of a Praying Wife’ by Stormie Omartian, ‘Woman thou art loose’ by T.D Jakes, ‘The Battlefield of the Mind’ by Joyce Meyer and ‘The Woman after God’s heart’ by Elizabeth George. If you are privileged to date brothers from the deeper side of the divide, you will be blessed with gifts such as ‘A Man God uses’ by Gbile Akanni, ‘Woman thou art loose’ by Dr. D.K. Olukoya, ‘Mother in Israel’ by Pastor Folu Adeboye or ‘The Effective Ministers’ wife by Pastor Faith Oyedepo.

We ought to grow into ‘women of God’ but aren’t there other pretty, simple and alluring gifts that could go along to bring out the lady in a woman? I recognise you might need more crispy notes. How about white diamonds by Elizabeth Taylor, Secret by Elizabeth Arden, Summer Cocktail by Givenchy? Or pieces of Caribbean Bracelets, Arabian shawls, Sunshades by Police, Jeans by Wrangler, Girly shirts by Davida, Office wears by Curtis, Night and Day by Mary Kay, a treat to the spa or sunlight hours at the beach?
Why treat her like a bundle of temptation, a test you must pass as a display of your spirituality? What about a pat in the back, a squeeze in the hand, a warm hug, a kiss on the fore head or a stroke on her hair?

Delani, a young married man – is not your regular ‘divine brother’. He’s been there, done that and sees life as one huge party! Married for about four years, with a son and awaiting another, he still calls his wife some intriguing names. I must have heard a lot but these ones stuck- Pepperoni, Sweet Yummie, Babe mi, Omoge, My one in a billion, Lovey Dovey. I imagine some people already squinting in irritation; ‘na your own be that’! Well, this guy makes a wonder out of his wife!!!
I could forgive a man for being overly dramatic in his display of affection to his beau, but I can’t help but seethe at chaps who are too proud, dull or primitive to adorn their women in robes of noble admiration. Have you heard pet names like, ‘Mummy, Iya yi, Madam, Sister Nneka or our wife?’

I understand that Christian ladies are belaboured by the inclination of their men to make prophetic declarations into their lives, using Bible quotes. So they earn names like ‘Beulah, Hephzibah, Delightsome, My Crown, Righteous, Jewel, Pure Diadem…etc. Yes Lord!!! What can we say to these things?

Have you ever seen the picture of a ‘sister’ and a ‘brother’? Particularly the ones they take in the studio? You haven’t? One glance at the shot and many things jump at you. You see bridled dreams, confused expectations, unspoken desires and many invisible boundary lines. His hand is resting uneasily on her shoulder; he tries to lean a bit forward with a nervous grin with the other hand behind his back and secrets in his eyes. And then, you have Sister Florence, sitting on the edge of the high stool with a shy smile, waiting for the future!

I don’t have all the answers to making a woman happy, but to make her heart sing, you’ve got to bring some zest to the table. A woman thinks a lot about the guy who makes her laugh hard, she grows fond of he who sings her favourite love song and dedicates it to her. She wants to remember the sound of your heartbeat when you said all will be fine and she’d like to be surprised by new things almost every time…

O yes – let godly ladies choose to build a future with men who love God and understand the covenant. At least, no one wants to be daughter-in-law to the Devil. But we look forward to a new day without the traumas of men unschooled in the affairs of the heart.

We like it when you love Jesus yet get us rocking!!!